As a Pediatric Nurse, I spent most of my dads giving advice for new parents. I came across the quote, “Life doesn’t come with a manual; it comes with a mother,” and to be completely honest, it scared me. If anything, a manual, is exactly what every parent needs. As parents, we are raising the next generation, which means we have the power to change the world! How can we give our kids our full presence when we are so consumed with the unknowns of parenting. Being my own worst critic, I immediately thought of everything I could have done wrong. Saying I don’t give myself enough credit is an understatement.

To put this into perspective, I’ve worked my entire career as a Registered Nurse specializing in newborn and pediatric care. Giving advice for new parents was my specialty because the one area in my life where I have complete confidence is parenting. But, I still felt like I was failing as a mom. Why?

Raising four boys all less than two years apart, my days, as you can imagine, go by fast yet feel like an eternity. Most days were spent cleaning Sharpie off furniture, dusting mounds of flour off a naked toddler (proof below), and cleaning up urine that my kids turned into a slip n slide (Oh, the joys of potty training). My to-do list only got longer, and my mind was in constant overdrive.

Fast forward five years, and a significant life change, I discovered my inner strength. Learning to trust and follow my intuition brought me to a whole new level of confidence. Noticing that most parents felt the same way I did, except they had a lot more uncertainty. If I spent countless hours searching for ways to make life easier, I can’t imagine trying to figure out all of the unknowns that come from parenting let alone trying to shuffle through the conflicting advice for new parents

I began to realize, the best advice for new parents is to find a “parenting resource” outside of the medical setting. I started to think of all the services we utilize as a society. Dog trainers, fitness trainers, business coaches, life coaches, etc. How is raising a human any different?

Advice for new parents comes with information overload and conflicting advice 

Do you remember the first time you brought your first baby home from the hospital?  The feeling of, wow, I’m responsible for this human being. You walk through your front door and immediately start questioning, now what? Should I feed him? Should I let him sleep? Should I lay him on my bed, keep him in the car seat, hold him? The uncertainty of raising kids creates stress, clouds the mind, and makes us question our intuition.

Becoming parents doesn’t magically come with all the answers. We all have our’ motherly/fatherly intuition,’ but that begins to work once we learn to trust our intuition. Determining the different cries happens once we figure out why they are crying in the first place.

We begin using Dr. Google to help us find answers to all of this uncertainty. The problem is, just as you can find 100 recipes for lasagna, you can find 100 ways to feed a baby. You quickly get sucked down the rabbit hole, only to come out more confused than when you started. Advice for new parents isn’t a one size fits all. It all depends on the child and family dynamic.

Have you ever received conflicting advice from 2 different pediatricians within the same practice? It happens, it’s pretty standard, and most of the time neither is right or wrong. The problem is, advice for new parents comes with an excess amount of information that we need to sort out, and figure out what works and what doesn’t through trial and error, and understanding our style of parenting.

What every parent needs, isn’t a manual. My advice for new parents is finding someone who aligns with your style of parenting to guide and coach you through the process.

What every parent needs: A resource and support

There are so many areas in our life where we understand we aren’t the expert. We don’t think twice about hiring someone to help us with these tasks. When we get a new puppy or want to get back to our pre pregnancy weight, we don’t feel guilty for hiring a dog trainer or personal trainer. Why is it that we feel guilty or less than if we need help raising a human being?

There’s a reason they say it takes a village to raise a child, but in today’s world, there is no village. Support usually comes with conditions, and we are left multitasking and burnout. No wonder divorce rates have skyrocketed; parents have nothing left to give. But, help and support are exactly what every parent needs.

Asking for advice for new parents is a sign of strength, and delegating allows you to make the best use of your time to focus on what’s most important. To be a leader, you have to master the art of delegation to focus on the big picture. When you are the primary caregiver of a family, this is no different. Essentially, you are leading the future, and there isn’t a more significant task.

It comes as no surprise that studies show how having a parenting educator greatly benefits marriages.  I pulled this article  where Johnson says,

“It’s taxing and vexing — children at any age use lot of resources and leave you depleted.”  Per Doss, research supports the idea that more parenting education could help many couple’s weather storms and their children. “There is good evidence that interventions focused on improving couples post-birth co-parenting can buffer couples from declines in relationship satisfaction,” he says.

Baby Sleep Training sets the foundation

Parenting is one of the most demanding jobs, especially in today’s world. Naturally, most parents spend most of their time worrying about their child’s health, nutrition, development, education, etc. My goal is to help you see things from a new perspective while providing a safe space to return when things get off track. A parenting resource is something every parent needs. Knowing you have somewhere to for advice for new parents without the fear of being judged is the first step to true freedom as a parent. 

Sleep deprivation has so many serious consequences for our health, yet motherhood has a reputation of sleepless nights, and feeling sleep deprived. Preventing sleep deprivation by taking a proactive approaching learning the tools from the start sets a solid family foundation.

Sleep is not only optimal for babies’ physical, cognitive and emotional development but is equally essential for parents’ wellbeing and happiness.  The benefits of having a baby who sleeps well, are not only about the child. Mothers will also feel the benefit, which is why it has become a very popular service. 

The parenting couture difference

Through experience, I found offering my baby sleep training services with a limited number of follow-ups delayed the outcome. Parents wouldn’t come to me for things they felt were more important. Most of the time, what they felt wasn’t necessary or deemed to be “stupid” was key to helping the baby sleep through the night, and because of this, I decided to offer my sleep training services with unlimited support.    

The only way to achieve our vision is through your results, I pride myself on walking with you every step of the way. I not only want to become your number one parenting resource, but I want to be the space for you to feel safe to share your feelings and concerns.  I’m committed to providing a service free of judgement and full of support. If you are interested in learning more about my services, please head over to the baby concierge page.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post, and always remember YOU ARE WORTH IT.

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